A Most Graceful Gift

Right out his windowPaul Six took his final breath on August 22, 2012 at 7:10 am. He died as he lived, with an acceptance of what is, with a sense of humor, and with grace. All of you who knew Paul were undoubtedly blessed, as was I, with his wisdom, insight and willingness to give of himself fully. We knew he was a great soul. Just how great was revealed even more at his life’s completion.

I had the challenge and the blessing of being with Paul during his unexpected illness. He came to spend his 70th birthday with me and my husband, Tomas. I could see he was not well, and wanted to take him to a doctor. He wanted to wait until he returned to his home in Palm Springs. The day he was to leave, it was finally obvious to him that he had to get medical help. I took him to the emergency room, saw him through his intensive care experience where he underwent many tests, and was with him when the doctors told him the results they found: kidney failure, heart operating at 10%, and large cancerous tumor in his bladder.

Given the choice to undergo chemo, radiation and, if he survived this, a life on dialysis, or let nature take its course, Paul chose the latter. He told me that he felt complete; that he had done everything he had wanted to do, and that he did not fear death. The doctors gave him two weeks to one month to live, and since he could not go home, I sent out a letter to the Doorway Into Light organization here on Maui, and cc’d Heather Parsons,  (a certified death midwife) asking if they knew of anyone with a home with an extra bedroom. I explained the situation; that we needed a place where I could call in hospice to care for Paul as he made his transition.

Heather and her beloved husband Rob answered the call. They had only one bedroom, and so moved their bed into the living room so Paul could take their room.  This was beyond anything I could have imagined.  Paul’s soul was obviously orchestrating everything, and we all got to watch the miracles as they unfolded, one by one.

Paul with Heather, his primary caregiver

Paul with Heather, his primary caregiver

Heather, (and I) became his primary caregivers. Heather is an angel thinly disguised as a human. She was phenomenal with Paul, caring for him like a precious friend. In addition, she has all the skills, so Paul felt very safe with her.

Other friends from Maui, Sher and B showed up to help.  Two friends from the mainland Randy and Lucinda flew over, and along with Tomas and Rob, the 8 of us became the core family that watched over Paul 24/7 to make sure he was well cared for. The hospice nurses and helpers were caring and supportive. Everyone who found their way to Paul’s bedside commented on his presence and the peace that exuded from him.

One of the things I learned is that dying (unless it is sudden) is an active process. It is the final work that we must do to let go of our bodies, our emotional attachments, our mental constructs and thought processes, and finally our breath, the life force that animates us.

A wall hanging in our office says:

What matters most is
How well did you live
How well did you love
How well did you learn to let go

On all of the above, Paul excelled. He lived well and gave love through his exceptional gifts. His final gift was showing us all how to let go with a grace that opened our hearts wider than we could have imagined.

The view from Paul's bed

The view from Paul’s bed

I wanted to share with you some of the teachings Heather and I received from Paul during this profound experience. Most of these were one-liners—many that came when he was in that altered space between the worlds, in his final three weeks.


Paul’s wisdom:

“We are moving away from singularity toward the collective mind and heart.”

“There are two worlds. One is the world of questions. The other is the world of answers, and they are interconnected.”

“We have to tell people. They think it’s “out there”. Eternal life is inside.”

“I believe everything that happens is destiny.”

“If you dedicate yourself to spirit, you have a kind of protection. It’s the way to grace.”

“Let’s all see how we can support each other personally and professionally.”

“Everything you want is available to you. You might need help to bring it out more.”

“What a transformation. It’s so beautiful. It’s so beautiful.”

“This is profound, deep, meaningful and passionate.”

There were things Paul said that indicated he was ready to go—some of them were really funny.

“Will you help me get to the airport on a certain day and year?”

“At some time will people get tired of this and move on?”

“Is everyone getting off at this stop?”

“I want to log out.”

“They are preparing a new personality for me.”

“Will you help me with something please?  Will you open the door for me?”

“When can I go upstairs?”

“A cruise might be a nice way to go.”

“I feel myself slipping away, but it’s not hard.”

All of Paul’s caregivers expressed gratitude to be with him during his time of transition. Randy prepared his favorite foods. Heather massaged him daily.

Sher and B drove an hour each way daily to sit with Paul. Lucinda sat with him at night, and with little sleep, was always cheerful. Tomas bathed him.

We all let him know how much we loved him, and that we were happy he was with us. We continually made sure he was as comfortable as possible. He, in turn, showed us how graceful the dying process can be.

During these final days, Brenda Robards a student of Paul’s came to spend time with Paul and during this visit, it became clear to Paul that Brenda was one person that could shoulder his mantle and pass on his work. He instructed her to write a book, and that he would help her from the other side. Brenda is already receiving messages.

The rest of the view

The rest of the view

Three days before Paul died, Heather and I read his book to him, The Great Love. The essence of his wisdom is simply and clearly shared in delightful story form that will live on. If you want Paul’s advice on how to make your life really work, you will find it in his book!

My sincere hope is that we all receive the gift of being surrounded by loving family and friends when it is our time, and that we can let go as gracefully as Paul. It will be our final gift to the ones we love.

A Heart Full of Gratitude and wishing you Bountiful Blessings,

Joan Heartfield, PhD
Paul’s Maui friend since 1976

If you have a story about Paul to share, please email it to stories@paulsix.com and it will be published for others to read.

If you feel called to contact Heather or Brenda, they welcome email from you:
Heather Neeraja Parsons: Neeraja@earthlink.net and
Brenda Robards: brenda@brendarobards.com

A special letter from Paul

To lovers of the magical dimension

When I came to Maui for my 70th birthday, I had the feeling that I was not going to leave, even though that wasn’t in my plans.

The day of my departure, I was taken to the emergency room, and then into intensive care at Maui Memorial Hospital where they gave me a choice. I could spend the rest of my life in intensive care with life support systems to keep me alive, or I could simply let nature take its course. I surrendered to nature and I know it is the best thing to do.

The trip was supposed to be about introducing some new ideas, because that is what I had planned in my mind. Once I got here I woke up to the truth that that was not the most important thing I could do. Everything I had held inside of me came through and took over. I could say that that could be very threatening to my security, but the truth is, I never felt more secure in my life.

What amazing process was I going through?

I image that all of us live and die with definite ideas about how our process will unfold, but what I have learned as I come to an end of this road, is that who I am is a composite of all I have done, and all I have been, and all the wonderful reflections that have shown me who I am. .  One thing I know for sure; death is nothing to fear, and it is nothing to be sorry about. I know I am going to where I belong; because that is the only place I can go.

So I feel that no matter what happens, it’s all right, because it is exactly what I came to planet Earth to experience

As a result of my health challenges I will not be continuing to put new postings on the blog. However if you want to continue to receive this information, I believe it will come to you in some way.

I want you all to know that I am in a beautiful, serene home in the forest on the north shore of Maui. I . I am surrounded by loving, caring people and that I am exactly where I need to be now.

To all who read this, I send you my love.

Paul Six

Astrology and Reincarnation

Astrology and Reincarnation

Millions of human beings around the world believe that they have lived other lives in the past and that they will continue to live other lives in the future. In other words, they believe they will never really die.

This belief reminds me of the last line in the classic film, “Lost Horizon”, in which one of the film’s characters was asked if he believed in a place called Shangra La, where people lived long, healthy lives and never grew old. His reply was that he did believe in it because he wanted to believe in it.

Human beings are essentially energy systems. As energy is indestructible, so is the essence of a human being and of all living things. Taking this concept into consideration, the argument for reincarnation is not whether or not something of our lives survives our physical existence. Instead, it is a question of whether or not the part of us that is indestructible and does continue on can be understood in a personal context. In other words, does any part of our personality transmigrate into another body? Or is it universal consciousness, the spark of divine light that continues, imprinted with memories of the past that may be derived from many lifetimes and many different personalities.

The original concept of reincarnation was developed through the religions of the East, particularly Hinduism and Buddhism. These religions put forth the concept of the soul, a universal rather than a personal entity. The soul could be comprehended as a record of many life experiences, a composite consciousness composed of eternal energy and information that continues on and gains wisdom while living upon the Earth in a physical vehicle.

A record of life experiences! A composite consciousness of eternal energy and information! These are the elements of our nature that survive our mortal existence.

Although the original concept of a supreme deity in the western world was beyond the personal, western religious leaders eventually were able to persuade millions and millions of individuals that God was there for them in a personal way because God, itself, became a personality. Now a more modern approach in the west as well as in the eastern world is to view God as a process–a creative, living, evolutionary development in which the light of the universe expresses itself in every conceivable way.

The misunderstanding about reincarnation and the inclination to make it a personal experience is similar to the misunderstanding many people have about astrology. If we today use our current state of mind with its available frame of reference and apply our three-dimensional perception upon a reality of cosmic proportions, we wind up indulging our egocentricity. In believing that our individual personality, which was formed by a story that each of us was temporarily born into, has the capacity to enter different earth suits and play out different scenarios over a period of centuries, we are making our personal story as big and important as the Sun, the Moon and the Stars. The universal light that was granted to us to serve the universe on a particular mission becomes something we believe we can own forever and that it belongs only to each of us and us alone.

If instead we could view ourselves as the universal light itself, rather than as a singular being perpetuating a sense of separateness, then we would be the Sun, the Moon and the Stars. We could then connect our sense of identity to the creative source that brought all celestial bodies into manifestation. While we would be inaccurate in stating that we personally lived other lives, we would be perfectly correct in stating that other lives from the past are now living through us and that we are all links in the great chain of humanity.

Reincarnation in a personal sense makes no sense. If every person that ever lived on the earth (a number estimated at over 100 billion) continued to return over and over again, each time taking on a different form, can you imagine how many more people there would be here than there already are?

Reincarnation is a truth; however, the process cannot be individualized. Perhaps those who cling to the idea of living other lives, past and future, are in some way divinely discontented with the present one and feel cheated out of a quality of happiness that they perceive others have more than they. Perhaps they have a sense of inner power that they cannot channel successfully into a structure that the world currently accepts.

Then there are those who come to earth and while in their childhood, vividly remember other lives in details, specifics that can be verified. There are those who in their adult years undergo a past life regression and see images that spell out such specifics. Just because an individual contains the memory of past existences, however, does not mean that he or she lived them out at another time. For the soul contains memories of many personalities and lifetimes and this is obvious to anyone who realizes how truly interconnected the entire human race is.

It then becomes a choice on our part to decide if we are going to continue to fortify our sense of separation and continue to make reincarnation a personal ego trip.

The Jewish people fortified a sense of separation from the rest of humanity and six million were exterminated in the Holocaust. The Japanese people fortified a sense of separation and they remain up to now the only nation that has ever been atom bombed.

The universe is aiming for unity. There is unity in heaven and the divine intention is to mirror that heavenly state by bringing the human race into a communalized focus. Yes, we are far away from materializing the divine intention because we are still working things out at present.

Instead of complaining about the current state of affairs, we would get closer to heaven if we observed without judgment, accepted what was previously unacceptable and then moved on to see past the veils of illusion into the real reasons things are the way they are.

Out of all the many countries in the world that I have visited on my journey through life, the ones that are the most peaceful and the most prosperous are the countries where people have a modest approach to life. The inhabitants of these countries are not boastful. Their behavior enables others to perceive the value they carry without shamelessly needing to push their agenda. The citizens of these countries are highly aware of personal boundaries and do not normally attempt to take up so much space that their actions have the effect of diminishing the other people around them. So it would be most helpful for every one of us to arrive at a collective understanding that who we are now and what we are doing in this lifetime is what counts. All the rest is either fear-based belief or wishful thinking.

The universe spoke to the ancient astrologers thousands of years ago and revealed some of its secrets to them because they were pure of heart. It does not speak to most of us today, as it did then, because our minds have been educated to be left-brain oriented and skeptical of anything that is not immediately obvious. This is why many people can only see the source of life as a person, made in their own image. This is why they can only view reincarnation as a personal experience for to them what other experience is there?  Why would they want to embrace a philosophy that puts their personal story in its proper perspective, where it is only meaningful in its relationship to everything else? Perhaps many of us do not yet realize that in each of our lives, parameters must be drawn as a counterbalance to personal expansion so that all that grows inside us can be crystallized to serve the greater good. Paul Six June 9th, 2012